A pretty lame day, eh?

[ithika]

It's pretty tragic about Heath Ledger. He was always one of my favourite actors, actually, ever since I saw him in The Patriot. Also one of the very few (like 5) famous guys who was actually good looking (not that that is terribly important, but you know, it's not like I knew his personality and chose to mention his looks). The media never cease to amaze me with their insensitivity, though. So very sad, particularly for his daughter.* Rest In Peace.


The other sad news, certainly the main reason my day was lame (while Heath Ledger's death is tragic, it's not like I knew him at all, though I know people who did) is that my appeal was unsuccessful. So I guess I'm doing 2nd Sem 2nd year again, and losing Jan-Feb of next summer.
Oh well. Pretty upset, but whatcha gonna do? Kill monsters, read books and write horrible horrible Goth!ballads, probably. (Not so much the last part, but any chance to make fun of Goth!Poetry should really be taken up, no?)


*A thought: do you think it would be easier to lose a person pivotal to your life, like a parent, when you are very very young, and so would grow up largely without them, perhaps only a few original memories and the rest from home movies? This is the wrong way to word it though, since neither would be easier. The question - Would it be worse to lose a parent when you're so young as to never really know them, or worse to lose a parent when you're old enough to miss them, old enough to have gotten to know them, and to remember them?
Even though I have zero experience in this, I think to not have memories of your own of one of your parents would be pretty hard, but then losing someone is always hard... Maybe it would be better to have the memories? I don't know. It's pretty tragic whenever it happens, to anyone. I just thought about it because of this whole event.

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[voyaging-moon.livejournal.com]

I think it would be harder to lose someone close to you when you're young. I think a loss like that stays with you your whole life, even if you never really knew the person.

So sad about Heath.

[laura-kathleen.livejournal.com]

My brother died in 1998 when I was 12 years old. Even though we spent our first years together, he got into a lot of trouble on the streets and was constantly running away from home. So we had early, basic memories together. But we didn't have a whole lot of time together and sometimes the bad overshadowed the good.

I often reflect on the fact that Scott was turning his life around and had just left the gang he was in when he was murdered. He was getting on his feet and we were seeing more of him. He hadn't been locked up for a long time and things were looking up. I'm positive he would've re-absorbed back into the "daily family" instead of the "holiday family."

All that being said, I think it's tragic that I didn't get to know him better. But. I have enough grief over what memories I do have of him and they still come back at me a decade later. [That feels weird to say. Feels shorter.] I'm actually grateful that I was young when it happened because now that I am older and more emotional, as well as bi-polar, I am ill-equipped to handle a family member's death now that I am an adult.

My own grandmother is nearing 85 and I've lived with her my whole life, and the day she dies is the day I've been actively afraid of since Scott died, because I don't know if it'll send me off the deep end.

I'd say it's easier, emotionally, to have trace memories and have them go while you're young. It's easier to miss someone and have a few happy memories than have several good memories and spend your life mourning them, regardless of all the "think of the good times" lines people feed you.

[penchaft.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I really, really miss my grandfather (he died of cancer when I was 5ish), even though I have no direct memories of him. I've been told quite a few times that I'm pretty like him, and that he was heartbroken when he found out he wouldn't get to see me grow up, and apparently my grandmother was a lot less... ...like her current self when he was around.

Better to have loved and lost?

Noted:

[arinellen.livejournal.com]

*HUGEHZ*


You're more likely to have closure if you grown up with them and closure is better then most things.

Re: Noted:

[(Anonymous)]

in regards to the appeal.. bugga. I feel to blame my sloth-e-ness slides
look as 2nd sem 2nd year as more space to be creative as u will be a year ahead this time round..
(apparently arch summer school is super relaxed)

don't let it ruin your last month of holidays regardless
enjoy

Re: Noted:

[dailfire.livejournal.com]

its heath ttyl